bookwyrm

This raised a red flag for me. My XAH was the same. Over time, I couldn't go out without him or I would have to arrange someone for him to go out with at the same time. I hated going out with him because he would get so drunk he couldn't walk properly. I ended up completely isolated and never went out (didn't stop him from going out though). I lost a lot of my friends and lost a lot of my confidence in social settings as a result.

I forgot that XAH was a grown up. He didn't need me to babysit him! He was old enough to be able to look after himself for a night without me. This was just another way for him to control and manipulate me. It made it easier to gaslight me if I didn't have any friends who could give me a reality check.

Please avoid the mistakes I made. Don't give up your social life. Don't become isolated. Don't make your AH the focus of your life. It is your life for a reason.