Hi JLT
You'll find various answers and attitudes on this one - it really is a subjective thing, and only you know your relationship.
Some people think it should be no big deal to give up something to support your spouse.
I can see that, but I tend to think, as the alcoholic, I'm the one with the problem - unless you're going on 3 days benders and trashing the place with riotous parties every night, it really shouldn't worry me what you or anyone else is doing...the focus should be on
me and what I need to be doing.
I don't know you or your husband but I really screwed up - by the time I quit I'd been single a long time, but even if I wasn't, I was the last person to be in any position to be making deals...with anyone.
I'll admit it's taken me a long time to get this reasonable tho LOL - if you feel like you want to try this deal thing....perhaps you can work out a compromise where you don't drink at home...it doesn't sound that that would be a big deal for you?
Welcome to SR
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