Welcome Jols, I am glad that you have found SR. Always here with support, and wisdom and good advice. This is a wonderful forum.
Take care of you, so important. I am finally learning to relax. Time and good decisions and Al Anon, and SR, and a great therapist, and reading the AA Big Book and more time have brought serenity into my life. I will never be done. It will never be perfect, but I am happy.
Sending good wishes and positive thoughts your way.