Originally Posted by
jmartin 
Thanks to all for your suggestions and kind words. I've read CDM. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings that were not particularly helpful - in fact, they kinda creeped me out. I suppose I could go back and try yet another time. If that's all I have left, though, I gotta admit, I'm having a hard time feeling very optimistic.
There is hope.
I've survived being married to an abusive psychotic alcoholic/addict (now deceased), have a 32 year old daughter in active addiction, and a 22 year old daughter who's enmeshed with an abusive alcoholic.
Alanon saved my life in more ways than one.
Today I can live a full and reasonably happy life in spite of what others, including my grown daughters, are/aren't doing.
Don't throw the baby out with the bath water. Some Alanon groups are better than others.
The group I attended over 20 years ago was dominated by a pushy woman who would rather discuss how to fry fish. Ugh.
I didn't let that deter me from finding my own program of recovery via Alanon.