I have to agree with LexieCat. Codependency is a slippery slope word that gets used and miss used by all sorts of people. I'm certain I exhibit behaviors that could be labeled co-dependent. But I really don't worry about whether or not I'm a "codie." I'm working on making my life better. I'd like to get more of what I want out of living instead of having to adapt so much of how I spend my time to AH's drinking schedule. In short, I'm trying to become more powerful. I'll measure that by how I feel from day to day.
Here's an article I read recently and saved. I think this is an interesting perspective. It does really confirm my notion that there's no firm definition of codependency. LexieCat is correct that there is no criteria for diagnosing codependency.
How the Co-dependency Movement Is Ruining Marriages