My advice, if you really want to know, would be to get yourself a copy of "Codependent No More." It is full of examples of harmful behavior that fall under the umbrella of codependence. If you are like most people, you will find that some apply to you, and some don't.
I don't think the label is all that important. I know many people bristle at the idea that they might be codependent. For me, it was a relief. Finally, there was something I could do about my situation. For two decades (longer if you count childhood), I was a "victim" of the alcoholic. There was nothing I could do about it. When I discovered codependence, it was like being handed the key to my own prison cell. Now there was someone I
could change. Me. It was very liberating.
L