Dont be too hard on yourself ...seems to me like the stuffing has just been knocked out of you, so to speak. I understand , I have been there too. With me, the damage seems irreversible. Not through lack of trying, and I relate to you saying you felt resentment because yes the actions do affect us too. More than they realise. Sometimes its just as simple as when some things that were once there have now gone..they have just...gone. On the other hand, if its what you both truly want, and want it enough then you will both find a way to make it work
Take it easy & dont beat yourself up>>you are not made of stone
NT