[QUOTE]Its sad to hear about her struggles but ultimately they are her struggles. No one but herself can get her healthy. Let her solve her issues and put the focus back to your life. I know that's easier said than done. I had an ex that is alcoholic and its difficult to watch someone self destruct. I have been able to find peace about handing him to God/Higher power and talking with people that get me and value me (good friends, family, SR, therapist).[QUOTE]
I agree - also might find information at an al-anon meeting (even though the focus is on alcoholism; it applies across the spectrum). But the lessons to learn are detachment and finding yourself and what YOU want.
So sorry to read your story but you have found a good forum here. It's been a blessing for me!