At a certain point I came to realize that my life never was about THEM and that what they did or said really didn't matter. My life is about me. The way I think, the decisions I make, the way I see the world, and others, and my relationship to it and them. First I learned to detach, physically then emotionally. Then I learned to set boundaries, physical, emotional, spiritual. It's all practice and there is no fast and easy cure; I've done it all while living my life. For me, it's been about balance. And choice.
Take care. Thanks for sharing.