No I guess I am confused as to how I am trying to save someone by wondering if they have a personality disorder or not. I haven't mentioned wanting that person to get therapy, thinking I could talk to them to convince them of their problems and get them help, nothing to that affect. I don't feel I am this person's life line at all. I don't think anything about my question had anything to do with trying to change him, save him, etc. The last sentence said, "That scares me." It just scares me think that I spent that much time with someone that could have such a label and gives me the jeebies. It's like saying, "You've been sleeping next to the devil for 4.5 years." Ick.