That doesn't change the fact that it is still very difficult for me to distance myself from my mother, who, despite all her personal issues, is still a wonderfully loving, intelligent and simply a great person. I still sometimes feel that I'm abandoning her and that is very difficult.
Smithers,
Have you tried any meetings? Like AlAnon, or Adult Children of Alcoholics.
AlAnon will help you to detach with love. Still love your mother, but not be a witness to her personal destruction.
I hope you find a way to balance the two.
You sound like a wonderful, loving caring daughter. Your mother is very lucky to have you.
My father was an alcoholic, and after he and my mother divorced, I rarely saw him.
When I did see him, even as an adult, he scared me.
Beth