cynical one, yes i have gone to every couple of weeks to a meeting (not as many as i would like), its hard to find a sitter, my little munchkin gets really fussy at night if I am not with her.....no one wants to hear her screaming. He was not an addict when we met, or married, that I knew of. He was just as anti drug as I am when when we met, he was raised by his grandparents because of an addict mother, and we met in church, and became friends over the whole not wanting to turn out like our addict parent situation.
i must say though I find humor in the idea that subconsciously ever girl marries a guy like her father. But this was super subconscious, we went through weeks of premarital counseling just on the whole issue of not being like our parents.....some how the accident and back pain changed him,or brought out the addict in him.
i appreciate your view on things, it keeps me thinking.