Thanks Cyranoak...I am checking the meetings in my area and I am going to attend to see if its more me. I will say that I was in therapy about 4 years ago when I first separated from my husband. My mother of course had to attend with me...controlling bulldozer to the end. At that time, I read Codependent No More and I kept thinking "why is my therapist having me read about Codependence and Alcoholism?" Um DUH! :brick Never felt that brick...denial at its best. SR made me see the light. Thank goodness.