I had problems with a couple of Alanon meetings....one too casual, one too structured....but now have found one which is a good balance for me. I have been around recovery "rooms".....20 yrs. and still skip around to try new meetings and get new/different wisdom. Same for me on this website some I "take" and I "leave" some of the rest. Both have helped me so much. Recently someone shared they had difficulty with the higher power concept in the fellowships. She began to think of a higher power as a math equation. She alone was 1x =power.....talking to someone 1 on 1 was 2x =twice the power.....a group was lots x=lots of power. That is why a group or website works for me......group= more x power.