I remember, early in my recovery, feeling shock because I realized I had no idea who I was or what I wanted.
I had spent my life as a reflection of others...my mother's daughter, my husband's wife, my son's mother, my employer's employee.
I had to get to know that stranger called "me".
What a joy it was to take time to think about my own needs. To find my own dreams and learn to live them. To feel "okay" taking care of myself and making it clear to others what I needed.
It took time, it took recovery work and lots of thought...but it happened.
Today I can recognize when my life is off balance. Today I can take pause and think about what I need to do to get grounded again.
And today I am grateful for all who went before me and showed me how to do this...and told me it was "okay".
Hugs