Sounds like you're in hypervigilance mode, which is understandable as a result of living with an active A. As everyone has said so far, take it easy on yourself. In time, you may find you relax a little more even knowing there's a possiblility your wife may fall off the wagon. When my exADFH was not drinking, but not in recovery, I went into that mode. It was when I relaxed and finally felt like we were doing well that he hit the grog again. As I said, he didn't do any recovery. Different story for you though in that your wife is actively seeking her recovery and will hopefully continue down that path. 'One day at a time' and 'easy does it' came to mind when I read your post....
