Originally Posted by
BlackLizrd 
I understand now that I ALSO WANT HER RECOVERY TO BE #1 in her life. So now #2 isn't looking so bad.
First off, welcome. I have an AW and she has her own later night recovery program so I can related to you.
Just don't forget to put yourself in the #1 spot, kids next. I know what's it's like to get run down doing the daily grind while the AW works on her sobriety. I know it's hard feeling like you're the only person doing the work on the family. I have a similar challenge. I know what it's like to have sacrificed so much during the drinking time only to keep sacrificing while she sobers up. Seems like you aren't getting a piece of the pie. I started working on small increments of time. 15 minutes of all me time. The more of that I did, the more me time I found. I'm now carving out large chunks of the day and looking to take some classes during the week for myself.
Nobody should get demoted by someone else. We should always keep ourselves in the top spot.