Actually, Codie, I think you are already on your way to getting better.
You recognize the problem.
Since I am just begining my journey, (I have done the twelve steps for alcoholics) as an ACOA I am reading everything I can and I have ordered the Big Red Book (for ACA's) from the ACOA site.
It is a revelation, after all the struggle to realize that you are not alone.
There is help and a happy, fulfilled life for YOU.
Beth
I used to call my grandmother Nana too.