Laurie - it sounds as if you may have hung out with the Trudgers. That's the group my wife hangs with. I've heard from others that they do stay out late but that their methods produce good results.
Yep, it was the Valley Trudgers, lol The groups are over 40 years old, both in L.A. and about 35 years old in The Valley. Yes, they have 'saved' many an alkie that was on the edge of 'going back out', if nothing else, keeping them out at the coffee shop until the bars and liquor stores closed.
I am glad your wife is trying to get home earlier. Yes it is 'progress not perfection.'
My very best to the both of you ....................... you continue to use Al-Anon and she AA and I wouldn't be surprised if some day in the not to distance future y'all don't start going to some of the conventions and roundups in the Southern California area, and yes many of them have events for the kids too. They are a GREAT weekend getaway of fun and program and meeting others in your same situation.
Sending good thoughts and prayers from NM.
Love and hugs,