tjp613

This visual helped me: Every time I give him something like food, rent money, cell phone, etc, (while he was actively using and not working) then I am helping to dig his grave. I visualized that every time I handed over money it was the same as shoveling one more load of dirt.

It took my son quite awhile before he realized his manipulations weren't going to work anymore....about 3-4 months as I recall. He got a job, found a place to live and is on his own now --and our relationship is cool. He never asks for money and won't take it even if I offer. He's determined to do it on his own. I don't think he has much left over for drugs. He's definitely different than he was a year ago, that is for sure.