Lightseeker, I hear you loud and clear (with tears in my eyes)). I know I have enabled terribly over the past years. Paying rent, truck payments, food Makes me sick. I have done counciling, Alanon and have had a few sessions with an addiction therapist. I'm ready to face this head on now so hopefully my heart doesn't get in the way. I love my son bu this time my respect for him has flown out the window. He was building a nice business and threw it all away.........Its nice to hear that your hubby is doing well and beat the demon. Would love to see that here but my son has to do it this time alone also.....thanks for the words... Hugs~