Noday - I have that on my bulletin board still today. I put it there over a year ago (from SR) because I was really in it thick with the enabling and trying to orchestrate my life and everyone in it. I have a couple more lines.
Help is what I do for others who can not do it for themselves.
Enabling is what I do for others who can do it for themselves.
If I say it without being asked, it is meddling.
If I say it twice, it's manipulation.
I used to have them all over (my car, my night stand) because I did not like the person I had become - and I'm pretty sure a few others felt the same way, lol. I should add that shedding the enabling and the meddling/manipulations was very very freeing. A much more pleasant way to live.