I am so glad you found here, too!
Isn't it great to know that there are other people like you?
It has helped me more than I even believed it could.
You are doing great in such a short time!
You have already started taking action, and believe it or not, the "starting" is the hardest. After awhile things will get easier, if you keep at it.
Originally Posted by
Codie101 
I need to love myself MORE than anyone else and I don't. I need to take care of myself and not worry about whether he is happy or not - regardless of how much he has had to drink.
This is important, and very difficult.
If the codependent instincts feel too strong, here is something I always told myself that helped me:
"I cannot take on the world without ensuring I have paid enough attention to myself, my needs, and my health. I am better able to help people when I am at full strength, so right now any time spent helping others at my expense is selling
everyone short."
By the time that statement stopped working, I was already strong enough to filter out the "waste of effort" situations so at least I only helped/bent over backwards where it would make a difference - a big improvement over beating my head against the wall.
