Originally Posted by
Eight Ball 
As an adult its time to not let the past control your future because then they have won. I know thats a cliche but its really good not to fester too much in that stuff. I know my half brother is still severly effected by his child hood and he is 50 yrs old now.
Any recs on how to stop festering? is it really possible? i've been doing it for a week straight (my first alanon meeting was a week ago).