Originally Posted by
tlm56 
It wasn't until I got away and looked back that I could see the picture more clearly and it was not good and was never going to get better.
When you're stuck in the insanity, it's hard to have any time to think straight, much less take care of yourself.
As soon as you're separate and can think again, you look back and wonder what the heck you just allowed yourself to put up with, but since it usually happens gradually, and you're so caught up in the insanity of the moment, it's hard to recognize then.
Separation - even if it's just a weekend away with a relative or something - will do wonders for sanity.