I could not financially afford to leave my A either. Once I shared with friends what I was living with, I was offered money, a place to stay, help with the move.
I accepted EVERYTHING offered, and left, found a great place to stay, and got my sanity back. My exabf if now almost 1 year sober, and doing very well. So am I. We are healthy, apart, maybe we can stay healthy and be together someday. We never could have done that together the way we were living.
I send positive thoughts your way.