This is my first post but really wanted to chime in because I am a guy that prob knows a lot about this kind of stuff and have been through alot (on the wrong end).
I know you keep checking this thread for anyone who has had positive outcomes from something like this but it's easy to see why you can't. You should realize there are around 50-100 people viewing this section at all times and this is one of the largest threads right now. Don't you think people would be jumping in to share a success story? You've heard about 20-30 bad stories and maybe 1 or 2 "good stories" that weren't even first hand.
Obviously this comes from someone who went through this in a bad way but I am just pointing out what everyone else is trying to say to you. You are not in a forum where everyone is fine and dandy. We have all been through tough times, and a big one is relationship problems. What I am sayin is that you are looking for comforting responses in the wrong place, so take it for what it's worth.