Old 01-18-2011, 01:15 AM
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Thumper
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Hi and Welcome to SR.

Don't beat yourself up for not doing something differently in the past. You did the best you could. Today, you are not in denial. Today, you are making brave choices. Today, you are being a good mother and looking out for your daughter.

It is OK to be sad over the situation. Alcoholism brings sadness into our lives in layers. That doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong.

Have you read 'Co Dependent No More' ? That is a good book.

I'm sure everyone knows your ex is an alcoholic. You aren't going to be revealing any secrets. Everyone goes to al-anon for the same reason. Because they love someone with alcoholism. There is nothing to be ashamed about, no one there is going to cluck their tongues. They *know*. You may be surprised at how affirming it is to be with people that really get it.
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