I'm sorry Jack. I am not you so I cannot know the dynamic between you and AH. I only read a story. But I feel that your son should respect your decision and you seem to worry a lot about his interaction with his father, how he perceives his father, how he feels, etc. None of which you have any control over. Just because a person is alcoholic does not automatically make him a liar. Trust me, my father was a nasty, belligerent DRUNK when I was your boy's age. But I respected him as my parent. Period.