hey all! thanks so much for the advice thus far. my boyfriend and i arent planning on moving in together anytime soon no worries, its just been more general talk about what would happen in the future. actually, i will probably be moving out of state for graduate school for the next four years. i wanted to add though that i think the reason not having alcohol around is such a big commitment for me because we are still quite young. im 22 and he is 24. its kind of odd because in terms of the way we perceive alcohol im finding myself to be in a different place now than what we started at. meaning to say that he had never really discovered that he had a problem until during our relationship...and that to be so young and told not to be drinking too much is a little difficult because its not really what i thought would happen in the first place, like it wasnt knowingly that this happened