Sorry about the multiple posts! Not sure how that happened. I agree that it's great that you posted here to get various responses. I feel my post came across a bit too strong.
Trapeze, I like the peanut allergy analogy (more than the analogies to cancer or other diseases). For some reason with alcohol & mind-altering substances (even those of us who have really examined this issue thoroughly, there is a kind of "morality" spin that creeps in, sometimes unconsciously. Kjell, thank you for your post. Both Bruingirl and her boyfriend are not bad people. In fact, Bruingirl, was inquiring & trying to gain more insight.
Thank you for the question & allowing me to learn (about myself too) as well.