These are the things that help me stay in the moment -
1) I heard on the radio that people who daydream when listening to a lecture actually pick up a lot more than when they don't, because the daydreaming ties up the part of their brain that keeps wandering off, so when I am doing a task I don't particularly enjoy doing but needs doing I hum and I think this actually works the same way - it ties up my brain so I am not overwhelmed and lose energy thinking of all the million other things I need to do to get where I want to be.
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2) My counselor told me it was time to start redirecting my energy into my goals and not into thinking about my AH needs, reactions, recovery or anything. Somehow when she pointed that out I began to find more energy to get myself more organized for me and for what I wanted for my living space (AH is not living with us at the moment).
3) I used to flip through the pages of "One Day at a Time" reading 10 or so of the daily messages perhaps looking for the one I could focus on and finding a little bit of comfort in that. When the New Year started I forced myself to read only 1 page at a time linked to the date and if I am having trouble during the day I reread that page and any of the day before pages. This was very difficult for me at first but it helps me to focus on 1 message a day and try to get something that works for me out of that message.
I did get myself the "Courage to Change" book so I do the same with that and I end up with two messages each day - sometimes they are similar messages. Once in a while at the end of the day I take a look at the message that is coming up for the next day but so far haven't gone beyond that. I think this is helping me to train my brain to focus on the moment.
4) My HP helps me live in the moment most of all because each day I realize that it is not me who controls what is, I choose how I live with what is - whether or not I want my home to be disorganized, whether or not I live with my AH are my choices. If my home is disorganized (which it definitely is!!!) I can choose to spend my energy doing something about it, how much or how little I choose; if my AH isn't there for me, I can choose how I react to that but it is for sure wasted energy focusing how I live my life around what AH needs to do for himself.