atalose I absolutely see your point. It's quite awkward, I agreed to her moving in before I knew for how long. It doesn't help that she confronts me about everything I do, like 'where are you going?' 'H is not home yet? where is he?' It's seriously annoying, but because she's family and her father is great, we put up with this. She's the reason I don't want my daughter to be an only child haha.
Fortunately, when I found out about the A she wasn't home for a few days, so we got to talk and I got to cry for hours without being interrogated.
At this point what our marriage needs is my H never drinking again, and that is it. Whether she's living with us or not, he needs to stop drinking and noone can make it happen or prevent it from happening, just him.