Originally Posted by
skippernlilg 
I'm concerned that you think you should go to Al-anon to help 'his' recovery. Al-anon will be a way for YOU to get through this. Really, it's for you. You get to do things for YOU!! It's an amazing freedom when you grasp that.
I don't think it matters so much why someone
goes to AlAnon.
As long as they find a good AlAnon group to attend, they'll soon realign why they
keep going.
I have seen people going out of spite and jealousy, even - "Well, you're going to get drunk/go to your AA meeting/whatever, than I'm going to AlAnon, what do you say about that?!?!?" By the end of the meeting even they're so much more relaxed and making plans for attending another.
It's like one of those little "
coin funnel" things. You drop your coin in, and it keeps circling the outside around and around but always circling and drawing closer to the point of the exercise until it drops into the middle.
I believe that eventually a person will find the right meeting(s) and the right people and the right purpose for
them, even though it may take awhile.