Originally Posted by stella27

...It doesn't matter what we say to you ... What matters is what YOU are willing to tolerate in your marriage. You get to decide where you draw the lines. ...That includes whether you have a houseguest for a year. ... be realistic about what you're living with. ...It took me about 12 years to realize this about my (former) BFF, sweet hubby, love-of-my-life. He was a disaster as a husband (even though he was cute and my chidlren love him) and he was taking me down with him. ... My well-being was greatly enhanced when I became honest about what I was dealing with.