After years of exhaustive detective and pseudo-psychology work, I can say none of it fixed one darn thing.
I was still left with an uncomfortable sense of reality in a relationship with a person who obviously drank too much.
The only other sure thing was that I had created a whole bunch of neurotic thinking in myself during those years.
How did I get to be so neurotic? By a lot of detective work and playing psychologist.
So I've been down the labeling diagnosing path, and it didn't work for me.
Perhaps others will find more success.
