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Old 07-27-2004, 12:52 PM
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Magichappens
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breec,
I am obsessive, but that doesn't have anything to do with recovery. It's part of what I am trying to recover from!LOL! Finding balance in my life is a recovery goal I have. I won't ever have all my ducks in a row at the same time, but they're getting closer. Just remember that you can't fix your husband. I thought that just meant the drinking part, but it means the emotional, physical, and mental parts too. What he is asking you to do is make him feel ok by taking the focus off of you. It won't work, and you will be giving up something that is helping you. It's the choice we all have to make on a daily basis. I know where they are coming from, because I tried for years to make others responsible for my happiness. I didn't understand, and I can't expect them to understand until they are ready. It's not his fault, but that doesn't make it yours either. Keep doing what you need to do for you. You will be much better off for it. Hugs, Magic
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