Originally Posted by
sailorjohn 
Just stepping away from everything, letting the fog lift, allowed me to see the reality of the relationship, no further research necessary.
Exactly. Unacceptable behavior is unacceptable. Doesn't matter if it's caused by drinking, dry drunk, ADHD, narcissism, bipolar, or tight shoes.
My behavior is mine to figure out. Other people can figure out their own (or not).
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