Old 01-12-2011, 10:10 AM
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sailorjohn
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I can understand where bookwyrm is coming from, I spent a long time in the relationship-and during the frequent breaks-trying to figure out her end.

I would figure it all out, then tell her and viola! everything would be fixed.

While it might have been a little validating-for me-in the end it just served as a distraction from what should have been the main focus of attention-my actions, my behavior.

Just stepping away from everything, letting the fog lift, allowed me to see the reality of the relationship, no further research necessary.
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