Originally Posted by
cutelittlewife 
As for me, I went to an Al-Anon meeting but there are things I will not agree with. I can't stop thinking about him when he's out, I can't leave him , I vowed in front of God to be with him for better or worse. Also, at the meeting I went to, I was cornered by 4 women and spoken to for over an hour after the meeting. A LOT to take when you're devastated and crying...
Also, I am seeing a counselor tomorrow to help with grieving.
I came to this forum looking for support and understanding, reassurance that I'm not a weak sucker who can't dump his sorry alcoholic cheating ass but keeps trying to forgive...
((((HUGS)))). I, too, stumbled and faltered a few times before I found an Al-anon meeting that fit for me. Mine would NEVER tell me to leave my AB, and in fact, most of the people in mine are living with active alcoholics. What I learn in my group is to take what I like and to leave the rest.
Please don't give up on finding a group that works. It's been a blessing in my life more than words could say. I hope you can find the blessings you deserve.