Originally Posted by
cutelittlewife 
You know, my only concern is that I don't know what to do when I get the feeling he's more inclined to drink. Like before he relapsed I knew it was coming. I asked him to maybe go to a meeting but he said he didn't want to.
What do I do when this happens? I guess I could call his sponsor to get his ass out to a meeting, right? At that point he didn't have one. He said he'll get an old timer now, his previous sponsor was his buddy and he only had about 2 years on.
Any suggestions?
In my son's rehab during our "family week" training, they advised us to
gently point out that the relapse indicators are present: old people, places and things (triggers), lack of meeting attendance, little or no step work, little or no contact with sponsor, lack of exercise, poor diet, isolation, etc. We also keep our boundaries firm. Beyond that there is little we can do except
watch their actions, not listen to their words.
It's not your responsibility to 'get his ass to a meeting'. ("You can't control it.") That's his job.
You are to watch his actions and enforce your boundaries. That's it.