hello transform,
clw just said she is on the site now.
wow, talk about being triggered, and now i must leave this alone.
sigh...i am sorry clw, you have been hurt and are feeling it.
i came in with judgement.
my experience when my husband cheated had me feeling so bad i could barely breathe.
other members have mentioned about how alcoholics can feel ashamed and unworthy.
sabotage their own good life.
Alcoholics are not noted for their control over their their impulses, or their ability to tell the truth to themselves, never mind anyone else. My ex did try, very hard. He's not a bad person, and I suspect that he truly hates and is bitterly ashamed of the things his addictions bring him to do. But he hasn't found the strength to confront them, and that's who he is.
Yes, this was true of me also.
I hope you find support for yourself.
Beth