Old 01-11-2011, 08:22 AM
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nodaybut2day
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***RANT ALERT***

Beyond the issue of forgiveness and "what happens next", I URGE you to go get tested for STDs and HIV. I too used to think that my XAH wasn't the cheating type. And now I have HSV 1 & 2.

Please contact a STD clinic and find out about getting tested ASAP, as well as in 6 months (some diseases won't appear until 6 months after the initial infection). If you and your AH do continue together, you should know the state of your sexual health before you begin having unprotected sex. Please don't throw the condoms aside as some kind of show of your trust for each other. It is possible to get reinfected with certain STDs.

Also, if you do choose to continue with him and have another child, it is possible to infect your child with whatever STD you have, if it flares up during birth.

I know it's a real pain in the @ss, and it's very unsettling to remain in that grey zone of not knowing for 6 months while you wait for your test results, but it needs to be done!

/rant
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