Old 01-10-2011, 08:56 PM
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barb dwyer
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ok. im the horrible husband reviewing theses post with my clw.
hi.

im doing this to try to make this thing work as i will do anything for my wife. i know what i did was wrong and i have to live with the pain i caused.
Two words.

Prove it.



i now will be alone for eternity as i rot in hell for what i did.
That one kinda got me.
THought I was in the middle ages there for a minute.
the ultimate destiny of your soul
is none of my concern.

must be a local thing.

no one on this post knows what our marriage is about and only we can resolve this crisis.
that's true.
Just remember - 'someone' came here asking for help and support.
No one read this in the local paper and started talking about it.

We were, as they say...invited.

We were asked for our experience strength and hope.
We are giving it.

i will continue to get help for my problem and hope to God tnat one day my wife will be able to forgive me. i am not deserving of her love and am very greatful to have her. again i will do anything for her... i am trying to understand if i am constitutionally able to be honest with myself. i thought that i was but seem to always **** up.
I agree that you would not be amiss in registering for SR
in a name for yourself
and reviewing the newcomers threads.

I also agree about the testing.

I am more than a little ...
intrigued

that you are coming in on your wife's registration
and are so strongly motivated
to defend yourself to us
by reading her transmissions.

makes me suspicious.

we've seen a lot of people come through here
in these few years
and we've seen a lot of women
in very real
very harsh
very abusive situations.

We can no more dismiss her original thread
as frivilous
than we could stand on the sidewalk
and dare someone on the ledge
to go ahead and jump.

We must,
for the sake of our own integrity
assume that each thread started here
is genuine
and each plea for help
is sincere.

While you may not feel we're good for your wife...
she did.

If you're looking to be absolved...
you're hunting with the wrong dog, friend.
In the wrong woods
and have brought a knife...
to a gunfight.

I hope you'll go register in your own personal membership
and allow your wife to work out her problems
if that's what she chooses to do

and you will seek help
without interferring.

So I suppose my last words on the topic are my two favorite:

Prove it.
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