I hope
that you won't take the actions of one group
Also, at the meeting I went to, I was cornered by 4 women and spoken to for over an hour after the meeting. A LOT to take when you're devastated and crying...
as the 'status quo' for the organization.
You may have just not found the right group yet.
There could be something through your church
there could be something through counseling you'll find
that will help.
Thing I'm trying to say is -
outside support OTHER than your AH
is a very very good thing.
I wish I'd known about it at the time.