Tomorow I am going to just tell her that I have too many deep seated resentments. They affect how I look at anything she says or does. I think it's best if we seperate for a while. I had hoped that this episode would be her rock bottom but I am now convinced that it has not affected her a bit. She is going to do what she wants to and I am just just going to have to live with that fact.
This sounds like an excellent opportunity to learn about boundary-setting and practicing this tool with your spouse. I was very surprised when I learned this skill and applied it with an alcoholic addict who lived in my home. It taught me about control and was invaluable to me as it set me on a new path in my daily life (just a year or two ago).