not a codie
I dont think I am a codie although I do live with my AH (who currently does not drink) and have for many years. I am sure I may be weak, indecisive and a host of other adjectives AT TIMES. I am also strong, indenpendent, financially okay and loved by my family (as well as his). I am aware that I have made this choice to live with him. Some may consider it to be the wrong choice. It really depends on where you are in life. Al-anon has helped me see alot without assigning labels.
Remember no one can step on you unless you are already lying down. I am standing up currently.