I think so. I can think of a few things I did that now I might call enabling of my alcoholic former husband, but for the most part, I don't think I was codependent with him. Equally, there were some things he did for me that could be construed as enabling as well. When he tried to prod me into the codependent side of the alkie-codie dance, I just thought he was nuts. (For example, he wanted me to nag him more. I believe I responded that he must be smoking crack, how many millions of husbands out there would give a great deal to have their wives nag them less?)
When I lived with him, I did get wildly frustrated over his refusal to take responsibility for his destructive actions, but I never thought what I now know to be typical alcoholic traits were normal.