atalose- hopefully you are finding it is getting easier the longer you are "no contact." There are still triggers but it does get easier. I have been no contact from my AXBF for just over a month. I still have some third party contact (his family) but even they are in no contact mode so it's easier. Try to keep busy, find other things to occupy your mind even if it is just surfing the internet for useless information. I have some great websites I go to for useless surfing to keep my mind away from him.
Stay strong!