Don't know the post but it doesn't matter.
Need the males here, as you give the over abundance of females here that other perspective, and we love it. Many times you're so on and can be very funny.
Gonna chastize yourself for being imperfect?
You've lived with an alcoholic long enough that you are be definition codie, and as all of us, prone to sometimes knee-jerk reactions, over-reactions, emotional reactions, tense reactions, and just plain reactional!
From another changed forever terminally reactive codie.